Bed wetting can be an embarrassing time for anyone, regardless of age. It’s important to remember there are two main bed wetting causes: physical and psychological. Though both are broad, it’s a reminder that the cause of the bed wetting is not on purpose, nor preferable to the bed wetter. With social stigmas on being an adult bed wetter and the confusion connected with being a child bed wetter, it’s easy to forget there is a reason and get lost in the problem.
With children, especially toddlers and beginning potty trainers, there is a lack of solid connection between the brain and the body. Children are still learning their body’s signals and may not feel the urge to go until it’s too late. This can happen easily during play and sleep.
It’s important to work with the child to recognize the feelings and urge to go, so they can identify it themselves and respond accordingly. If the child is older and past the potty training stage and is wetting the bed, there may be a bigger problem. First, consider a visit to the doctor to see if there is a bladder infection or other problem that is causing the child to not be able to feel the urge to go or is not allowing the child enough time to go.
If there is no physical problem, consider the things going on in the child’s life that are causing extreme stress and anxiety. These could be positive, not only negative, as children handle stress differently than adults. Something like changing schools or moving, a death of a family member or pet, the loss of a friend at school, feeling uncomfortable with an adult in their life, a marriage or divorce in the household, a new baby…all these things cause stress to a child who is not older enough to sort out and express their feelings and this tends to manifest physically.
Take the time to talk with the child about the things going on in their life and ask how they feel about it. If you acknowledge their feelings and the bed wetting in a non-negative way, it’s likely the bed wetting will stop.
Bed wetting causes in adults are no different, just often more criticized and embarrassing. See a doctor to check for physical problems, if there are none, it may be caused by trauma (repressed or otherwise) or extreme stress and is important to find the cause of and work out.